Mr UFM’s parents came round to babysit the other night. I am very lucky in that I get on with my in-laws really well and see them as second parents. Poppy is their third grandchild and her cousins are super-intelligent, funny, very well-behaved and pretty much the perfect kids. My sister-in-law is a primary school teacher and is one those totally natural Mums who takes everything in her stride and just seems to know exactly what she’s doing. I on the other hand muddle through like a fish in mud.
Anyway, I mention my in-laws because Poppy decided that Nana and Grandad’s visit would be a really good time to throw her toys everywhere, bite off an extra big mouthful of crayon and worst of all, bite me really hard. Pops bites me when she’s over-excited but it’s no excuse and she really went for it this time, hanging onto my arm like a demented hamster.
All in all, she was thoroughly feral and out of control and I immediately worried that my parenting skills were coming into question.
So am I a good parent? Well I know that Poppy is a very content and sociable little girl and we make her feel very loved. She is a good girl most of the time but there are also the times when she becomes the aforementioned feral hamster type creature.
I know that there are things that I do that I probably shouldn’t…are they affecting her behaviour? I don’t know….possibly? Probably?
I’ll let you decide…..Here are some of my current Mummy Fails:
I settle Poppy in our bed every night. We then move her to her cot. If she wakes up in the night, she’s back in our bed. We’re too tired to do anything else. This probably needs sorting before The Piggle (baby number 2) arrives in August, but then again we’ll probably end up as four in the bed!
I bribe Poppy with chocolate buttons/coins/maltesers/anything chocolate related
We watch Peppa Pig when I change her nappy….it’s the only way to stop her wriggling around and escaping
I sometimes laugh when she’s naughty…I know it’s not helping but some of the things she does are so damn funny!
I sometimes do funny dances while she’s eating her dinner because they make her giggle. I’ll do anything to hear her chuckle
I can’t stop buying her things and if she wants something I find it hard to say no – I know I’m spoiling her but I just can’t resist
Many would say that I’m making a rod for my own back but to them I say that I’m doing my best. There’s a lot of room for improvement but no one said that this motherhood business was easy or straightforward. Sometimes you just have to do what works for you and hope for the best.